How do you switch positions when you are bedsharing with a toddler and baby?


Plus a brilliant way to up-level your floor bed, what to read while nap-trapped, and safe and unsafe bedsharing demos. 🌿

FRIDAY MARKED SIX years of blogging, creating social content, and talking myself hoarse about bedsharing. I spent the week thinking about what I want to focus on for this next year, and what I want to leave behind.

For year seven, I want to prioritize work that lights me up and leaves me feeling full -- working closely with families, finally getting my book into your hands, and writing emails like this one.

So welcome to the very first Cosleepy Dispatch! Like my Substack publication, Cuddle Curl, this is a whimsical, uplifting love letter to this season of life. It is the world’s first and only newsletter hopelessly devoted to parents who cosleep.

Look forward to inspiration for another quiet week at home, with your baby. For thoughtfully-curated recommendations from me to help you actually enjoy this chapter of life.

These are reminders that you're not the only one with a baby in your bed.

They're field notes from the family bedroom. Enjoy! 🌿

I noticed a new comment on last year's demo reel of me switching sides of the bed as I bedshare. Carrie asked, "What should I do about switching positions when there's a toddler on my back side?"

Unfortunately, there isn't a convenient solution for this situation. If you are bedsharing with an infant and an older toddler/big kid, you've always got to ensure that there is an adult body acting as a barrier in-between the two children.

This may mean that your partner needs to sleep in-between you and your older child, or perhaps it'd be easier if you were only bedsharing with the baby. There isn't an easy answer for things like this, but it's important because it's about your baby's safety.

I can only do so much in an Insta comment. If you want me to help you transition your toddler or big kid out of your bed before the new baby arrives, book a 60-minute call with me here.

A family I worked with recently installed these floating headboards on the wall beside their floor bed. They bought them to fill up a small-but-problematic gap between the mattress and wall, which is genius.

As I thought more about these handy little tools, I realized they come with other benefits, too...

  • They make sitting up and nursing baby much more comfy
  • They make the floor bed look a lot more "grown up" 😍
  • They'll help when baby begins rolling into the wall in his/her sleep

If you want to make your floor bed cuter and comfier, I highly recommend!

Looking for more tools to make this cosleepy season of life easier? I keep track of all of my favorite products here.


GIFT OF THE WEEK:

The Chest Sleeping Guide

It’s 3 a.m. and your baby will only sleep on you. 😱 Since I can’t be there IRL to help, what’s the next best thing? I made you a field guide! Scroll through and find A’s to all your Q’s on the safety, comfort, and logistics of sleeping chest-to-chest with your baby.

As a thank you for subscribing to my newsletter, this week you can use code BIRTHDAY for 20% off!


I made a post with my friend Jess of @feedingtosleep to demonstrate the safe way to cuddle curl with a newborn baby. If you are a visual learner, you need to see this post!

Hayley (one half of @thenurtureduo) generously gave me an old photo of her sleeping with her baby in an unsafe way. We turned it into two posts -- one sharing her story and the other pointing out the specific hazards in the photo.

I'm running low on rom-coms. I just started one with a "grumpy-sunshine" trope called 10 Things That Never Happened, by Alexis Hall. It takes place during the holidays and I wanted to save it, but I'm desperate for something.

What are you reading during contact naps? Hit reply and let me know!

Personally, I enjoy all of these tropes except friends to lovers. And I love a sloooow burn.

DID YOU KNOW? I have read hundreds of books on my phone over the last few years while lying beside my sleeping boys through the Libby app. All for free. Download the app, enter your library card, find a good book, and dive in!

(You can send the book to your e-reader, if you’d prefer!)

You can tap here to see what I read in April, March, last June, May, April, March, February, January, December, November, and October. I generally suggest a gentle genre for this season of life, like romance or mystery!


THAT'S IT FOR THIS WEEK.

Keep your head up! Remember that I'm rooting for you. Sending you a big hug from northern California x

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Sacramento, California 95811, United States
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